Most woman have always wondered why other woman would date or sleep with a man that is married or that is in a relationship. What type of thoughts goes through their minds knowing that this man has a wife or girlfriend at home. I assumed that maybe they didn't care because clearly he does not give a shit what he has at home. But, as a woman why would you cause that kind of pain and heartbreak to another woman and possibly their children. You would have to be a pretty selfish woman to not care at all. So, does it become about the money, is it about sex or just what you can get out of it.
So, my question to you is, what do you think a mistress get's out of disrespecting another mans wife or girlfriend. What could they possibly benefit from it.
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I think the benefit of a mistress is that they have the benefits of a girlfriend without the title and no strings attach. I don't know what possess some people to be so cold. They don't realize how much it could hurt someones family. I just think that the persons acting on this looks desparate. I think that this is apart of knowing and understanding your self worth. A lot of these side chicks or boyfriends number twos do this because they have been hurt before or have seen it growing up. Its sad that people would rather share someone versus finding their soulmate. If you really think that man will leave his wife for you your sadly mistaken. Yes this could happen but its very rare. I just couldn't be that person because yeah you will get things out of it but you are the doormat and he or she can just run over and string you along as long as they want. They don't realize that they are getting the representative and not the person their spouse has to put up with.Okay that's my two cents lol!!!
ReplyDeleteHow do you know what the man is feeling about his wife or significant other to say the mistress is disrespecting. His wife could be abusive or just plain old disrespectful to him. This woman who is considered by many as the sidepiece could be the only breath of fresh air that this man could ever have. As long as the man treats her with the upmost respect and cherish her as the woman she is, what's the problem? Why do women worry about the woman at home? If things were good and perfect, I'm sure he wouldn't stray away. "Jimmice" - sometimes we do leave our wife for the mistress.....seen this happen so many times.
ReplyDeleteI said its rare but if that chick or guy is a breathe of fresh air then why not leave. Why hurt someone that you claim you love. I get some women can be crazy or bitches, but you know what you were getting before you got married. So "T" is this something you have done
DeleteThank you T for your comment. Their have been plenty of men and woman that have had great relationships and still cheat. Not everyone that creeps out of the relationship is unhappy. What Jimmice and I are saying that what respect to you have for yourself. Yes, we think about the other woman to imagined that hurt they will feel.I can say first hand that it hurts being cheated on by an ex. In my eye's , things were perfect mentally and physically. But, I guess greed kicked in for him. He saw a fat ass and took his chance.
ReplyDeleteI know men have left their wives to be with the mistress. But, don't you think that pretend relationship that is now a reality can fail? You have the mistress possibly thinking this can happen to her. Karma is a bitch. How will she know that he is going to be faithful to her. He didn't respect his wife when he was sleeping with her. Why should she be any different. If she had any respect for herself, she would of waited for them to separate and make sure the divorce is going through before she became involved with him. But, I guess this would be the real adult's that take their vow's serious. Thank you T for your comment. I hope to hear from you again.
Great topic as always, Ms. Brown Sugar Vixen. I personally knew a "Mistress" aka " Side Chick" lets call her Daisy. She told me the best thing about being one was it was no emotional attachment on her end. I personally knew some of the dudes who she dealt with and they would "treat" her(dinner/gifts). So the benefits were the obvious. So all I can do is go by Daisy's(Mistress/Side Chick) experience. So in terms of the disrespect aspect, I cant speak on her's behalf. Although I can assume she does not care because if the tables were turned-Im pretty sure she would feel some type of way about being cheated on by her spouse.
ReplyDeleteHi there Reel Short Films and thank you. Dinner and gifts are the typical benefits that the other woman receives. So minor to us, but to them it might be like getting the world. Daisy was a woman that like having the benefit of no strings attached. Not emotionally tied down. And your right, she probably didn't care about what he had at home. Sad, but it happens. Thank you for stopping by. I hope to hear from you again.
DeleteThe side person is always a sensitive subject. I think we all have to consider the different variables. Do all parties involved know what's going on? Does the side person even know that they are the third party? The side person should be held accountable to a certain degree. But the partner in the relationship or marriage should always take the most responsibility for inviting in a third party. Now the type of people who are totally disrespectful are the women and men who ONLY seek out individuals in relationships or marriages. That pretty much shows that they have no integrity or respect for the sanctity of love and relationships/marriages. And that is definitely an emotional/psychological issue. There is absolutely no excuse for cheating because it doesn't begin in the bedroom. All in all, my primary source of anger would go to the person in the relationship who invited in the third party. The side chick/man is on the outside of our relationship, so they're only going to do what they're allowed to. But if they personally sought out my man, she will be in line to get her ass whipped right after my man/husband.
ReplyDeleteWelcome back Isis. Your right Isis,not everyone involved with a married man know at first that he is married. At some point, they will get signs that there is another woman involved when you can't go to his house, or he can't talk after 7pm. I agree, once you know their is another woman involved, conversation over. I know a lot of woman feel the same way you do, get ready for that beat down. LOL.....Thanks again for your comment. I hope to hear from you again.
DeleteAll good points made here on this one. Jimmice, a long time ago I was this guy. I have learned a lot from the old me.
ReplyDeleteWell "T" this is good to hear because some people would just take that and run with it. At some point we have to learn from our relationships and not let this effect our new relationships. Relationships meaning with ourselves and with our spouse. To touch on what Isis said I agree sometimes the other woman/man doesn't know and they end up hurt in the process as well. Its sad, but this happens.
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