Today's post I had to research and make sure that I had accurate information. For year's, the question for woman has been "Why Men Cheat ". Especially when they have a beautiful family at home or just in a great relationship. But from researching this topic ,you would be surprised on how things has changed. It's always been assumed that men are more likely to cheat than woman. Based on my research of 3 different article's, 60%-70% of men cheat on their wives or girlfriends. But 50%-60% of woman cheat also. So, that question all woman across the world from Alaska to Maryland, can no longer be so quick to judge men. Woman have literally started showing their ass.Another fact that I found out that 56% of men stated that they cheated even when they were happy in their relationship.34% of woman did also. So again, no clear reason why men and woman cheat. Another survey was done to find out if men and woman would cheat if they knew they would get away with it. 74% of men said they would,63% of woman would also. I must say, researching this topic depressed me. We get married because we found love, and that we have found the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. So, where is that love or that respect when men or woman are out their cheating? I have never been married, engaged yes, but was smart enough to call it two months before our wedding date. I don't want to marry just to say I'm married. I want a man that is going to love me completely, honor the vows we took. This also goes for men and woman in relationships trying to get to married.
So this brings me to ask you this.....
If you were out and saw your buddy's girl out with another man, or your best friends boyfriend out with another woman, would you tell them? Better yet, would you directly approach them?
Let's talk.....
Articles:
Truth about Deception
Infidelity Statistics by Rebecca Lake
Fox News Magazine
Very Juicy :).... Yes, I would approach them with a simple "Hello." Just a simple "Hello" because I want it known that I've seen you out there creeping on my friend or best friend. What you're NOT going to do is try to play someone I care about in the public eye. Then from there that person will hear from my friend or best friend because I would call him or her and tell them what I've just witness. At that point the decision is left in my friend or best friends hands in regard to if they want to continue moving forward with that person or not. I'm not here to break up a happy home but I strongly believe in Loyalty, Trust & Respect. You want to be bold enough to stick your "Johnson" where it DOESN'T belong or open your legs to a "simple f*%#" then be BOLD ENOUGH to be honest with that person you're out there hurting.
ReplyDeleteI love your post, Please keep them coming.
I'm So Proud Of YOUUUUUUUUUU :).
Thank you Jessica for your comment. You are so right, if you man or woman enough to creep,be that same adult and live up to your responsibilities. It's sad we find hurt before we find love. It this case, everyone involves get's hurt. Thank you for your support. I will continue to keep them coming. LOL!
DeleteI would say something to my friend mainly if she is being faithful to this guy. I would also say something if she was doing her, a quick "Hey girl just a heads up keep doing you because he is doing him". But before I run back telling what I saw i would do my home work and make sure I have my facts right. "Hey I am Tina how are you all? So who are you?", just to make sure its not his Mom, cousin, Best friend from 3rd grade so on and so on (id still give my friend/family a call to say "Hey I just so and so out with his cousin from his mom's side named -----, just to let her know).
ReplyDeleteGreat response Tina. It could be innocent. But, we all know body language tells a hell of a lot. So, before we go all she woman on him. Let's see who the hell he is with. We do know that chick will not allow him to call her a relative. LOL.. You know how we do... Thank you for your comment. I am glad you came back to comment on my new post. I hope to hear from you again...
DeleteThis incident hits too close to home. I have a friend that my husband saw their boyfriend out with another woman. My husband did a double take and then went up to him and was like "hey how are you". He then called and told me about it. So mind you this was around a holiday and my friend and her dude were suppose to hang out later that night and he told her he was with the boys. It was very hard because she really loved and cared for this guy. So we called her and told her to come over so she can spend time with us before she was suppose to go out with him. So we didn't let it out at first and then I was like can you come sit down I have to tell you something. She of course was very shocked and surprised to know this information, but she really felt embarrassed and hurt. I felt bad but I felt as though she needed to know before she put her all into this man. We later found out that the same woman he was seen with actually became his girlfriend.My friend stayed in contact with him even after I told her. She claims they're friends and all I could say was be careful. I definitely would want someone to tell me because that shows me your loyalty and that your a true friend. I understand trying not to hurt someone you love feelings, but sometimes it needs to be done because love is blind.
ReplyDeleteWelcome back Jimmice. It's amazing to me how woman, knowing that men are in a relationship, still date them. The crazy thing is that the other woman became the girlfriend. I guess we can possibly say that she might didn't know. I feel for your friend, she going everyday possibly thinking she is in a good relationship and in reality, she is not. I'm glad you and your husband where able to be there for her. I truly believe in karma. He will get his.... Thanks again for your comment.
DeleteWell guys I'm queen PETTY yes I would approach him or her. I wouldn't cause a scene per say but I would say something right then and there just as I would want my friends to do for me I would also bring it to the other spouse attention also.
ReplyDeleteHi Diamond! I wouldn't call that petty. You are just looking out for your friend. Most of us would react based on emotions. I'm sure a few people would approach their friend's significant other.So,just be the queen you are. Thanks for your comment. Hope to hear from you again.
DeleteVery interesting!!! I wouldn't say anything to that individual, however what I would do is immediately call up my friend and mention what I saw to her. If I could descretly get a pic.. I might do!!! Lol! Just to see if she recognizes the female. It could be very well be a relative or something work related. It all depends on the scenery and what's being displayed. But walking over and confronting the person is not something I would do, but to each his own!!! ;)
ReplyDeleteOnce again another great question, Brown Sugar Vixen! Truth be told women are the best cheater :) It just that our dumb asses get caught up easily, lol. But in all seriousness.. I would not say hello to him/her who is supposedly cheating. Even If I had 100% proof I still would not approach the person. Although I would walk pass so they can acknowledge my presence and know that I saw they ass supposedly creeping. Sometimes saying nothing speaks more volume than any words.
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