And the QUESTION is.........

From talking to our girls to conversing with our boys. At times, that can be the best kind of therapy. Venting about work, to the kids or just about relationships. If I had to pick which one we vent about the most, I would say relationships. In my last blog, we commented on what we thought made a good relationship work. And the type of work we have to put in to have an successful one.

Being single, I have had just a few (2) that I put 150% into over the years. At that time my heart knew that they were the one. I guess you can say  I was definitely in love to have felt that way. But, when it ends, besides the heartbreak, you question your values, your self worth and start wondering how could I have been so wrong, when it felt so right. Then you think and wonder did I miss any signs, while I was floating on cloud nine. Which made me want to ask you this:

If you could ask a question to the ex of your current spouse, lover, booty call partner our just some one you are dating. What would you ask? Once you get your answer, how do you use the information. Should you even trust them? HMMM....

Let's talk...

Happiness......

 I learned over the years  how hard you try to make people happy, be a good person or the follow the rules, people are going to view or judge you regardless. Sad, but true. This goes for work, home and definitely in relationships. We all know relationships would be the better topic here since we all are in one, been in one or looking for one. I tell my best friend Michelle all the time that men in their 40's still act like they are in their twenty's. Still with that immature mentality, that when can I hit that attitude. I know this goes for my younger ladies. I know I would expect that for the younger men out here, but no excuse for you to be putting up with it. We all wish that is was a course taught in school for men on how to be in a meaningful relationship, how to take care of your woman, mentally physically and emotionally. Would be a lot of F's as grades, but just imagine the education they would get. Not a class taught by Steve Harvey, but Iyanla Vanzant. Ok,maybe Steve as a guest speaker. I do applaud those men that have taken their time to learn the woman they are with, or date with a purpose, giving that wonderful woman an opportunity to potentially show you that she might be the one. I love to here stories of men that realized they lost their soul mate and come back to get her. Always a love story there. I wanted Valentine's Day to be my first post. I'm such a romantic. I enjoy seeing that excitement in woman making romantic plans for their special someone. Getting idea's on how to spice up things a bit. I wanted us to share with each other idea's to help keep that fire burning or to get it lit if it has died. Let me hear from you. I know Valentine's day has passed,but it can be Valentine's Day everyday in the bedroom. Let's talk.....