Good Evening Everyone!

I missed talking to you all. I took a break to focus on a career change. But, I am back and wanted to let you know that I will be posting a new topic on Friday. I hope everyone is ready.... I am trying to build my audience and obtain more followers. I need your support also. Thank you so much for supporting me in the past and your encouragement.  Looking forward to talking to you soon.

Tasha

The Secret Life of a Mistress......

Most woman have always wondered why other woman would date or sleep with a man that is married or that is in a relationship. What type of thoughts goes through their minds knowing that this man has a wife or girlfriend at home. I assumed that maybe they didn't care because clearly he does not give a shit what he has at home. But, as a woman why would you cause that kind of pain and heartbreak to another woman and possibly their children. You would have to be a pretty selfish woman to not care at all. So, does it become about the money, is it about sex or just what you can get out of it.

So, my question to you is,  what do you think a mistress get's out of disrespecting another mans wife or girlfriend. What could they possibly benefit from it.

Let's talk....

Affair's of the heart......

Today's post I had to research and make sure that I had accurate information. For year's, the question for woman has been "Why Men Cheat ". Especially when they have a beautiful family at home or just in a great relationship. But from researching this topic ,you would be surprised on how things has changed. It's always been assumed that men are more likely to cheat than woman. Based on my research of 3 different article's, 60%-70% of men cheat on their wives or girlfriends. But 50%-60% of woman cheat also. So, that question all woman across the world  from Alaska to Maryland, can no longer be so quick to judge men. Woman have literally started showing their ass.Another fact that  I found out that 56% of men stated that they cheated even when they were happy in their relationship.34% of woman did also. So again, no clear reason why men and woman cheat. Another survey was done to find out if men and woman would cheat if they knew they would get away with it. 74% of men said they would,63% of woman would also. I must say, researching this topic depressed me. We get married because we found love, and that we have found the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. So, where is that love or that respect when men or woman are out their cheating? I have never been married, engaged yes, but was smart enough to call it two months before our wedding date. I don't want to marry just to say I'm married. I want a man that is going to love me completely, honor the vows we took. This also goes for men and woman in relationships trying to get to married.

So this brings me to ask you this.....

If you were out and saw your buddy's girl out with another man, or your best friends boyfriend out with another woman, would you tell them? Better yet, would you directly approach them?

Let's talk.....

Articles:
Truth about Deception
Infidelity Statistics by Rebecca Lake
Fox News Magazine

And the QUESTION is.........

From talking to our girls to conversing with our boys. At times, that can be the best kind of therapy. Venting about work, to the kids or just about relationships. If I had to pick which one we vent about the most, I would say relationships. In my last blog, we commented on what we thought made a good relationship work. And the type of work we have to put in to have an successful one.

Being single, I have had just a few (2) that I put 150% into over the years. At that time my heart knew that they were the one. I guess you can say  I was definitely in love to have felt that way. But, when it ends, besides the heartbreak, you question your values, your self worth and start wondering how could I have been so wrong, when it felt so right. Then you think and wonder did I miss any signs, while I was floating on cloud nine. Which made me want to ask you this:

If you could ask a question to the ex of your current spouse, lover, booty call partner our just some one you are dating. What would you ask? Once you get your answer, how do you use the information. Should you even trust them? HMMM....

Let's talk...

Happiness......

 I learned over the years  how hard you try to make people happy, be a good person or the follow the rules, people are going to view or judge you regardless. Sad, but true. This goes for work, home and definitely in relationships. We all know relationships would be the better topic here since we all are in one, been in one or looking for one. I tell my best friend Michelle all the time that men in their 40's still act like they are in their twenty's. Still with that immature mentality, that when can I hit that attitude. I know this goes for my younger ladies. I know I would expect that for the younger men out here, but no excuse for you to be putting up with it. We all wish that is was a course taught in school for men on how to be in a meaningful relationship, how to take care of your woman, mentally physically and emotionally. Would be a lot of F's as grades, but just imagine the education they would get. Not a class taught by Steve Harvey, but Iyanla Vanzant. Ok,maybe Steve as a guest speaker. I do applaud those men that have taken their time to learn the woman they are with, or date with a purpose, giving that wonderful woman an opportunity to potentially show you that she might be the one. I love to here stories of men that realized they lost their soul mate and come back to get her. Always a love story there. I wanted Valentine's Day to be my first post. I'm such a romantic. I enjoy seeing that excitement in woman making romantic plans for their special someone. Getting idea's on how to spice up things a bit. I wanted us to share with each other idea's to help keep that fire burning or to get it lit if it has died. Let me hear from you. I know Valentine's day has passed,but it can be Valentine's Day everyday in the bedroom. Let's talk.....